The fees you pay OTC traders are to fund their ongoing fight with traditional banking to provide you instant liquidity.
If you can wait 3-5 days for your crypto, there are low-fee online services for that. For instant crypto, finda a trustworthy OTC trader and pony up your fees.
#BlockRiot is the home of the blockchain in the fediverse. #cryptotwitter is exiting stage left. @bitcoinhackers.org is great for the Maximalists. The rest of us can land here!